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really listen … don’t hashtag

In Business, covid-19, CT, landscape, self care, Uncategorized on April 6, 2020 at 7:44 PM

Today was one of the tougher ones. We are all facing our own challenges and changes, ups and downs. I’ve confided to friends how hard it is to be living alone through all of this. No physical contact with another soul, no one to talk with in the middle of the night, when the anxiety often shows up. No other income to rely on. They tell me how hard it is to be stuck at home when they are fighting with their partners, when the kids just told them they suck for the hundredth time, and the dog just ate the meal they cooked when they had to leave the room for five minutes.  We are all riding a roller coaster.

 

I am self-employed and single. When I was forced to close shop on March 15th, and stopped having any income source – I still had two properties to support. Home and business expenses kept coming, and I started a slow, quiet panic. I knew I’d be OK – for a short time… but for how long? Most small businesses, as I’m sure you know by all the people asking you to not forget them during this crisis, run on very small margins.

 

I filed for unemployment as, for the first time, self-employed folks are eligible to apply with the new Pandemic Unemployment Assistance. I got word that my claim was approved and filed my first one yesterday.  When I checked on the dollar amount this morning, it was …. ZERO. I applied for one of the SBA disaster loans. My claim number was 3,302,753,XXX.  A friend told me that number represents the number of claims that have been filed. Even if that’s not possible … Yikes! Didn’t leave me feeling very hopeful.

 

So, I did what I do. Cried for a few moments, and once I got it all out of my system, began looking for other solutions. Then took a walk. In the woods. It never ceases to be a healing source for me. As I walked down the trail, these tiny landscapes kept catching my eye.  I had to get down on the forest floor to make this image. Look at all the growth that’s going on there! Saplings, blades of grass, flowers … It brought me so much hope for some reason. Maybe it’s the restorative effect of spring, trusting in the cycle of life, regrowth, and rebirth. These small shoots having the courage to find their spot in the larger forest. Or maybe it was just crawling on my knees to get eye level to this scene that reminded me to change my perspective in general. The image isn’t in focus … but neither are our lives right now. Everything is a little fuzzy. And that’s OK.

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I’m sharing this in hopes it reaches someone else who may be in similar shoes. To let you know you’re not alone. It can be tough to repeatedly, sometimes mindlessly, hear

#we’re all in this together

when, while yes, we are all staying home in a united effort to protect the collective health and well-being of all – no situation is the same. And I think people really need to be seen. Witnessed. Acknowledged. Not just thrown a hashtag.

 

To some this is an inconvenience. It’s hard and a struggle, but they are working from home, maintaining an income, and will largely be OK.  To some people it means being in danger. There are many in domestic violence situations right now who are living their days in fear. To some it means not being able to buy food for their children.  To some it means losing their livelihood. I’ve already witnessed small businesses closing for good. Not just temporarily during this pandemic.

 

Please know wherever you are, however you’re felling – it’s OK. It’s OK to have decided you’re going to get in shape to run a marathon during this time – and it’s also OK if you’re going to eat cookies and binge watch TV. Nobody else knows how your new life is really affecting you – except for you. So please don’t compare yourself to others. Try to find ways to be gentle and kind to yourself, and reach out if you’re feeling alone.  And try to really witness the people who reach out to you. Don’t just throw them a blanket statement of how we’ll all get through this. That’s not going to look the same for anyone. You may not be able to fix anything for them, but acknowledging their personal struggles throughout all this may help them feel held, truly connected, truly seen, and bolstered up to trudge forward.

Keeping Quiet

In CT, landscape, local artist, Manchester, personal, Photography, self care, Uncategorized on March 26, 2020 at 4:22 PM

Self-care for me today meant … walking in the woods, taking pictures, saying hello to strangers and  their playful puppies and … reading poetry. What did it look like for you?

 

                                                       

Keeping Quiet

by Pablo Neruda

“Now we will count to twelve
and we will all keep still
for once on the face of the earth,
let’s not speak in any language;
let’s stop for a second,
and not move our arms so much.

It would be an exotic moment
without rush, without engines;
we would all be together
in a sudden strangeness.

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Fishermen in the cold sea
would not harm whales
and the man gathering salt
would not look at his hurt hands.

Those who prepare green wars,
wars with gas, wars with fire,
victories with no survivors,
would put on clean clothes
and walk about with their brothers
in the shade, doing nothing.

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What I want should not be confused
with total inactivity.

Life is what it is about…

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If we were not so single-minded
about keeping our lives moving,
and for once could do nothing,
perhaps a huge silence
might interrupt this sadness
of never understanding ourselves
and of threatening ourselves with
death.

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Now I’ll count up to twelve
and you keep quiet and I will go.”

 

 

Take Mini Breaks

In community, Massage, self care, Uncategorized on March 24, 2020 at 10:10 AM
I’ve been talking with fellow small business owner friends about ways to offer our services online. A lot of people I know sell products, so they can keep doing that via Etsy or their websites. Yoga studios are recording their classes and sharing them on YouTube … I’ve been so grateful for this!
While I can’t give you a massage online … we CAN keep talking about self care. It is especially vital right now to take mini breaks from any stress you may be experiencing.
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What’s an activity that you find restorative? I love the combination of spending time in nature with photography. It calms me right down. Look for the light. Focus on any hope you can find. Acknowledge all that IS working, all the good that IS showing up. Stay in the moment and know that RIGHT NOW you do have everything you need.
May you be well.

 

Art, Beer, Brunch & Music!

In Art, art portraiture, community, local artist, Manchester, Marketing, Music, Open House, Photography, Uncategorized on February 10, 2019 at 2:12 PM

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More info can be found on the Facebook event page HERE.

Body Positive Photo Session

In Art, art portraiture, body positive, Photography, Portrait, self care, Uncategorized on December 2, 2017 at 2:05 PM

I got to do a very inspiring photo-shoot recently. A woman contacted me about putting together a “Body Positive” session.  She’s given me permission to share the images from our time together – and here are just a few.

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Over the past few years her body has changed a lot. She’s had a baby, experienced lots of other life challenges and her perspective on what is sexy and what she values in the world has shifted…along with clothing size, stretch marks, etc.

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One goal of the photo shoot was to claim that who she is now is just as valuable, sexy and powerful as the person she was as a “size two”. We HIGHLIGHTED stretch marks because they are a proud sign that she grew the love of her life in her body. They are not something she felt ashamed of – and to witness this was beautiful.

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It makes me sad when I photograph people who put themselves down throughout their entire session. I understand it – but it also makes me mad when I see a stunning soul standing before me, tearing themselves to pieces because they are not physically flawless.

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To define ourselves by a false definition of beauty that is endlessly marketed to us by companies who want to make us feel bad about ourselves in order to sell their newest product is disheartening. And to have someone stand before me, with confidence in and love for themselves was really kick ass.

 

If you’re on a courageous journey of learning to love and accept yourself as is – documenting the moment with photographs may be a powerful elixir.  I’d love to do more empowerment sessions like this…maybe with you.

Project 52 | 07

In abandoned, Art, black and white, CT, landscape, personal, Photography, Project 52, Uncategorized on November 19, 2017 at 5:54 PM

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Time for a challenge.  Whenever we get too comfortable in life we are no longer growing – and I feel the need to push my photography skills forward – or maybe just to make more images in order to keep my eyes and perspective open.  The guidelines of this self imposed journey are:  one photo a week; no explanations or stories needed; black and white; shot only with my Nikon D800 and 28mm lens.

Head Shot | Manchester, CT

In art portraiture, Business, CT, Head Shot, Manchester, Marketing, Photography, Portrait, social media, Uncategorized on October 31, 2017 at 12:31 PM

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Are your head shots current?  Fresh? Unique? You? In today’s social media world it is vital to put your best face forward. Serious, playful, approachable? We can create several looks for you in just one session … and have fun doing it!

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My new studio is open at 330 Main Street in Manchester, CT and I can’t wait to help you with your photo needs.

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Call or go online today for more information.  Phone: 860-306-0067 | Online: Portrait Info

 

Project 52 | 01

In Art, black and white, personal, Photography, Project 52, Uncategorized on September 25, 2017 at 6:11 PM

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Time for a challenge.  Whenever we get too comfortable in life we are no longer growing – and I feel the need to push my photography skills forward.  The guidelines of this self imposed journey are:  one photo a week; no explanations or stories needed; black and white; shot only with my Nikon D800 and 28mm lens. The end. Or, the beginning …

by the sea

In Art, CT, landscape, local artist, personal, Photography, Uncategorized on March 13, 2017 at 7:19 PM

“We are like children building a sand castle. We embellish it with beautiful shells, bits of driftwood, and pieces of colored glass. The castle is ours, off limits to others. We’re willing to attack if others threaten to hurt it. Yet despite all our attachment, we know that the tide will inevitably come in and sweep the sand castle away. The trick is to enjoy it fully but without clinging, and when the time comes, let it dissolve back into the sea.”

~Pema Chodron~

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…the land is always out there

In Art, CT, landscape, personal, Photography, Uncategorized on December 13, 2016 at 6:28 PM

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“Don’t forget that the land is always out there, making its way, doing everything it can so you can breathe fresh air; so you can eat fresh food; so you can move and see and feel and think, and it’s on your side. The world is out there doing what it’s been doing way before you came here, it’s firm and strong and it takes a lot to bring it down.

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So from time to time, just go outside and look at this spectacle. This pure painting right in front of your eyes. No one created it. No one owns it. It doesn’t want anything. It doesn’t need to prove anything to anyone. It simply is. 

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So maybe, try a little tenderness. Just give it a chance to do what it can do. Just let it help you 
breathe
and eat
and move
and see
and maybe just try to live your life in a way that doesn’t kill this force of nature
that is just trying to give you a world worth living in. A clean world. A fresh world. 
Paths, forests, oceans, animals, oxygen, water. That’s all it takes.

 

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Just try a little tenderness towards this world we’ve been lucky enough to build our homes on. 
If you take care of it, it will take care of you.” 

[Charlotte Eriksson]

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