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14 things I’ve learned since leaving massage school : #3

In Manchester, Massage, self care, Uncategorized on March 18, 2016 at 5:13 PM

(March 15th marked 14 years since my first day of massage school out in Port Townsend, WA. I spent a little time reflecting on what I’ve learned from having my hands on countless bodies of all different shapes, sizes, and levels of health over the years.  In random order here are some of my observations and things I wish my clients knew.)

#3  Sometimes being gentle is actually the deeper work

Many people tell me they want/need deep work. Their belief is that if it doesn’t hurt, it’s not doing anything. They ask me to use deep pressure and dig in with my elbows or any means necessary to make sure their body is beat into submission.

What I think they are really asking for is a therapeutic massage. Rather than something that is just pleasurable and relaxing, a therapeutic massage will consider addressing areas of the body with long term holding patterns and seek ways to encourage release in order to help create new movement patterns.

All kinds of massage are beneficial to the mind and body, and none require pain to create change.

The majority of the time, when someone tells me they need incredibly deep pressure to ‘fix’ their aches and pains, their body tells me something different.


I start every area of the body I’m working on with lighter pressure while applying lotion and assessing the area, then go in deeper as the muscles begin to soften and open up. When approaching an area of tension, per the client’s request, with deeper pressure, what often happens is a tightening of that muscle group, along with others, as the clients clenches their body to protect them from the pain the deeper pressure is causing. Now we are being counterproductive and degrading a relationship of trust which I think is crucial to allowing deeper healing.

One client told me they’d had pain in a particular area for years and just couldn’t figure out how to get relief from it. They asked me for deep tissue work as described above. When I laid my hands on the area and began using a little more pressure I felt their body tense and the muscle tissue sort of ‘push my hands back out’. After a few moments of this I choose to listen to their body and back off completely. I laid my hands on that area and offered up the intention of simply being a witness to whatever was going on, and silently asked permission to continue working. This time I used only gentle, mindful massage strokes and quickly felt the body let go.

When the client came out of the massage room they were in tears. They shared a deep emotional trauma that had occurred, which they had never really dealt with or let go. It was connected to that area of their body and had been trapped into the cell memory all this time. The next time I saw them they were no longer experiencing discomfort in that area and we’ve never had to dig deep since.

There is nothing wrong with deeper pressure … and … experience has taught me that our bodies are wise. If we’d quiet our minds now and then and  tune in, we’d know exactly what we need for true transformational healing.

14 things I’ve learned since leaving massage school : #2

In CT, Indulge, Manchester, Massage, self care, Uncategorized on March 17, 2016 at 2:24 PM

March 15th marked 14 years since my first day of massage school out in Port Townsend, WA.

I spent a little time reflecting on what I’ve learned from having my hands on countless bodies of all different shapes, sizes, and levels of health over the years.  In random order here are some of my observations and things I wish my clients knew.

#2 Wherever you are in your self-care journey is OK

Yesterday I encouraged you to consider not drinking that quad espresso before arriving for your relaxing massage appointment.

I also need to state that, if you do – it’s OK.

Just show up. Be as present as you can. Do your best to just BE in your body. Let go of an attachment to the outcome of your session time and simply pay attention to what your body may be telling you.

The massage room is a no-judgment zone.

Sometimes you’re going to come in and zone right out. Other times you’re going to chat nonstop because it’s the only way to let yourself unwind. You may get one massage a year because you still feel guilty taking “me-time” or because that’s what your budget allows. Sometimes you’ll come in once a week and think a 90 minute massage isn’t enough time because you know that the more your needs are met, the more of you there is to offer to your loved ones. It’s all good.

This could be you...

One of my favorite regular clients was an older woman who started taking care of herself much later in life. She said she didn’t start understanding the value of self-care until she was an ‘old lady.’

At our first meeting she told me (para phrasing), “Look – this is my body. Take it or leave it. It’s been well used. It’s birthed children. It has scars and wobbly bits. There is a tattoo where most people will never see it and hair growing in places I wish it wouldn’t. I’ve spent my whole life taking care of others, putting myself last or not on the list at all. I’ve never felt worthy of this kind of indulgence. Now I know. Life goes by fast. People I spent my whole life nurturing have died. I worked 40 years at a job and never felt appreciated. Now my body is breaking down and there is no one here to piece me back together.  I deserve to be loved, nurtured, valued and respected. I’m making up for lost time here doll, so make it good!”

It took her most of her life to learn how to receive, but once she figured out how valuable she was nothing was going to stand in her way. I know you deserve to carve out time to take care of you. My client knows it too. And wherever you are on that journey – whatever kind of time and space you carve out, or don’t –  however you show up – is perfectly OK.

May Massage Special | Mother’s Day | Manchester, CT

In Indulge, Massage, Refresh, Specials on May 9, 2014 at 5:39 PM

I posted a few days back that May 1, 2014 was the one year anniversary in the studio. As a thank you for your continued support I’ve created my own mini “living social” sort of special. Buy one massage | get one half off!! The coupons can be purchased through May 31, 2014 and are valid through October 2014.  I’ve had many last-minute phone calls today inquiring if these can be purchased for Mother’s Day Gifts. Yes! Hurry on down. You still have time. :)


Massage Special | Manchester, CT | One year anniversary

In Business, Indulge, Massage, Specials on April 24, 2014 at 4:03 PM

May 1st will mark the one year anniversary for Studio on Main. Seems like just yesterday I was hanging the sign out front and crossing my fingers that someone would come. To thank you for your continued support I’m pampering you with a rare massage special. Reduce stress and ease your aches and pains by purchasing a limited offer coupon – buy one massage / get one free! Contact the studio for details.


Massage Gift Certificates | Special | Manchester, CT

In Indulge, Massage, Specials on November 27, 2013 at 5:15 PM

Massage Therapist | Manchester, CT | November Special

In Massage, Specials on October 31, 2013 at 2:43 PM

Tomorrow is the big day! Six months in business and still growing. Remember there are two ways to celebrate.


1. All one hour Swedish Massages for November and December 2013 will be only $60.00!! That’s $20.00 off the regular price.


2. Start your holiday shopping here in the studio. Anyone who spends $25.00 in November will be entered to win a 30 minute massage in December.


Call today to book your appointment :  860.306.0067

$60 Swedish Massage Special | Manchester, CT

In Indulge, Massage, Specials on October 24, 2013 at 1:19 PM

Natural Face Lift – Massage Special for September/October 2013

In Indulge, Massage, Refresh, Specials on September 17, 2013 at 3:47 PM

September/October 2013

Neck, Scalp & Face Massage!!

We will combine Swedish massage techniques for relaxation and elongation of the muscles with the natural face lift reflexology points of Facial Rejuvenation to leave you feeling refreshed and younger looking. Normally $35.00 for 30 minutes this new treatment is on special for September/October 2013 for only $25.00. Book now!

Open Tuesday-Saturday by appointment. Call to schedule your massage: 860.306.0067

Soft Opening May 1, 2013 – Massage Specials In Celebration

In Massage, Specials on April 20, 2013 at 12:24 PM

This could be you...

Imagine … book now and that could be you!!

Our soft opening is May 1, 2013. In celebration all 60 minute and 90 minute “House Massages” will be on special!! For May 2013 only receive $15 off of the regular price. Book now … and tell a friend!

I graduated from Port Townsend School of Massage in Port Townsend, WA in 2003. Over the past 10 years I’ve had the opportunity to further my education, interact with other skilled boydworkers and provide therapeutic massage on both the West and East Coast – which allows me to bring a well rounded set of skills to the table. My work offers the possibility for transformation both physically and spiritually. Client communication to let me know your needs at the time of the session is encouraged and supported.

I am pleased to offer a quality massage at a reasonable price. My “House Massage” is tailored for your specific needs and includes a mix of any/all of the following modalities: Swedish Massage, Deep Tissue, Reflexology, Myofascial Release, Facial Rejuvenation, Shiatsu, Energy work and A.I.S. One of my favorite parts of the body to work on is the neck, head and face and I leave a little extra time at the end of each session to concentrate on these areas. All house massages also receive hot towels for their feet at the beginning of each session and cool water to drink at session end. All session times are true times. In my hour massage you will actually receive 60 minutes of massage – so please plan your day accordingly. All therapeutic massage sessions are by appointment Tuesday through Saturday.

“House Massage” – a therapeutic session designed to meet specific client needs:

90 minutes $115*
60 minutes $80*
45 minutes $65
30 minutes $45

* For May 2013 only, both the regularly priced 90 and 60 minute “house massage” will be on special for $15 off.

Prices are valid for May 2013 and are subject to change at any time.

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